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So, if you are PAYING FOR IT TODAY (THURSDAY MAY 28) OR TOMORROW (FRIDAY MAY 29) please rush on in for consultation for spellwork, and I will take 15% off the price of the spellwork if you just tell me the code MAYFLOWER2829. :D
I will also be re-initiating readings on June 1. As these are a hot commodity, and are apt to be bought out quickly (if the last few months have told me anything at all,) I want everyone to know for AT LEAST the first week, I will be strictly enforcing the pay-to-hold-your-spot policy. You may contact me NOW regarding readings, and remember, I do fill up quickly (or have recently,) so the sooner I hear from you, the better!
Hopefully that spell-sale should help those of you feeling the end of the month pinch that I seem to be hearing so much about, and I hope to hear from everyone soon regarding readings. :)
Hope this is some helpful (and not too repetitive,) insight. :)
1. Just because someone loves you, it does nothing to make them a better person.
I am fond of saying that just using spells to make a jerk love you means that now a jerk loves you. If they were a jerk before, don't expect them to not be a jerk when they are yours or when they come back. Making someone feel all warm and squishy towards you does not mean that they will ever be on their best behavior, or that their best behavior will ever be any good.
2. Commitment issues are real.
Commitment issues are often less to do with YOU scaring that person, and far more to do with a past event that has scarred your intended for life. So, if you keep pushing for a commitment, you can chase someone away. I mean this - maybe they love when it's light and when it's fun, but the moment they feel like they need to offer you more, they feel smothered and afraid. This is not something that's fun to work with, because it's a serious crippling emotional issue - like depression or anxiety, - and it will rear it's ugly head more than once, even if you use spellwork to draw this person back to you. If you love someone with commitment issues, you should know that it IS NOT just pushing them over a hump, and then they will commit - it's a serious issue, and it will effect your relationship with this person repeatedly. Sometimes the commitmentphobia goes away after some time, other times it's a permanent and reoccurring issue. You really need to view it like a mental health problem...for example, some people are depressed because they are grieving a loss, other people are bi-polar. One will not likely need a lifetime of treatment, where the other probably will.
There is no spell that will permanently SOLVE commitmentphobia. If anything, if you're super duper unlucky, you can even trigger a panic in someone by using too much love-binding. While I've not had that happen to me personally, I've heard tell of it from a few readers and seen it with a few clients. What happens is, the person who can't commit is suddenly feeling like "Hey, I really should give more of a commitment to so-and-so" just like the spellwork is telling them, and then the side of them that is phobic of such a thing starts panicking. It's a bit like forcing someone with a fear of heights to go bungee jumping, and then wondering why they freaked the fuck out so bad. In fact, I don't often recommend heavy love-binding on anyone to begin with, but if you're insistent that you need this kind of working, just keep your target in mind. If they are truly and quite literally petrified of commitment, forcing them to drench themselves in that which scares them the most can have a really bad impact on their mental well being (and your relationship.)
3. Most people are as stubborn as you fear they are, because you are afraid they're stubborn.
Ah fear...it attacts that which you fear. I should really start fearing (as in being terrified of,) really hot, rich, muscular guys who never age, and love only me.... I wonder if that would work. ;)
Humor aside, you are your own worst enemy when you fear something or have doubts. Look, maybe so and so IS stubborn, but have faith in your spellwork, and you might surprise yourself. Doubt and fear are the opposite of faith. I've seen some pretty impressive outcomes using spellwork on people who seemed immovable...they just crack under the pressure. Instead of feeding your worry, tell yourself "At least I'm doing something and trying, and the only way I know this will work is if I do try." Doubting and panicking never solved anything.
4. Yes, you are acting stupid and/or like you're gushing and crushing over that person.
Seriously and for real...you are totally showing your feelings. ;) Don't feel bad, I can get this way, too. I've definitely laughed at unfunny jokes and tripped all over myself because some guy was so cute....and I was well-past the age of girlish antics the last time it happened, heh. :P If you have to ask "Am I being obvious?" you're probably being obvious. He or she knows you like them. ;)
Now ask yourself - are they acting like "uh, no thanks!" or are they acting warm and receptive. If it's like your target is pulling back a bit, tone down the girlish/boyish crush behavior. ;)
5. Acting like a jerk isn't encouraging anyone to come to you.
I get it. You were wronged. Someone was mean. You don't want to be a doormat (you might also want to read #10.) I also can't begin to tell you how acting like a defensive jerkface is just going to make someone walk away. No one likes being attacked (you sure wouldn't,) and so why are you attacking this person? How is that helping? I don't care if it makes you feel better RIGHT NOW - I can assure you when you miss whoever you're being a jerk to, you're going to regret the jerk behavior later. If you just want to tell someone "how it is" and tell them off, don't expect them to come around your door anymore.
6. There is such a thing as scaring someone enough that they are not going to come back (at least for a long while. Even with spells.)
I always tell people the best thing you can do for yourself is to cause the least amount of damage possible when you break up with someone, even if you're the dumped party and you got hurt. Then I tell them to stop chasing their ex. DO NOT CHASE YOUR EX. It's actually going to make it harder for you to get that person to return.
7. There are people who can be madly in love and never be faithful.
Sexual exclusivity means absolutely nothing at all to some people. I realize that boggles the minds of other people. But...if your intended is the kind of person who views sex as something to share with everyone (not just one person) love spell after love spell is not apt to change that - see #1 and #2 on this list.
8. No one who cheats to be with you is apt to take you seriously (or be faithful to be with you.)
STOP before you start...I do understand some people "leapfrog" from their last relationship into their next. If your intended leaves someone to be with you after the first time you make kissy faces at each other THAT MIGHT WORK.
However, if this person is sleeping around behind their long term partner or spouse's back to be with you? They aren't leaving anyone. You're being played for a fool. Furthermore, you're with someone who would betray someone they claim to love...so wouldn't they do the same to you. As a word of advice, don't take cheaters seriously, and if you're a cheater, don't encourage your side-ass to take you seriously. There would be a lot less broken hearts in the world if people followed that advice.
Using spells on this type often just brings you a cheating assclown who cheats on you. :P I don't often see it end well for any party, and I don't recommend trying.
9. If they really loved you, they generally always come back in some way...though it might be a long time from now.
When I was in my teens and my early 20's, it seemed so FINAL. Once they were gone, were they not gone forever? I soon learned...well, no. In fact, usually they come back, over and over. ;) Heck, dudes that moved THOUSANDS OF MILES AWAY were pitching some sort of romance at me 3, 5, 10, even up to 15 years after we said "This isn't working." And the same went for friends - I thought we moved apart, and they snuggled up close again unexpectedly one day.
See, just like Corinthians says - love never fails. If you really love someone (even platonically,) and that love is truly and completely real (not just obsession) it always forgives, it doesn't bear a grudge, it is not jealous, and it is very, very patient, and it never fails. Somewhere, somehow, they come back, even if you didn't think they would and you both had to give up trying at some point. Now, even if I was ten years younger than I am now, I'd probably tell you that's a load of hooey, but in my experience it's true.
10. If you can't admit that they were hurt, too, (or at least that you made mistakes,) then it probably will never work out...even if they come back.
When I was a younger woman, I often saw only how someone had hurt me. They were not listening, they were not seeing my pain, they were the one who upset me, etc., etc. Well, but it didn't occur to me that I had scared that one, or I'd made this one feel his affections were unnoticed and unneeded. I'd been cold when this one wanted me to talk, and I'd been too hot and angry when that one needed space. In short, I'd hurt those guys, too. Even when I developed past that point, I still would do another incredibly stupid thing - I'd rate who was more betrayed. :P So, maybe I was a total cunt to that guy, and that outweighed his being a total cunt to me (because I was cuntier.) Or, maybe I was being mean and not talking, but that guy had said I looked ugly, hit on some girl, and then also drank too much and I got embarrassed by it. So I "won." I got to be the wronged party.
Look, love means having to say you're sorry all of the time, even sometimes when you don't know why. :P It means trying to understand why someone else got hurt even when you were and are still hurt. It means letting someone know you have boundaries while also letting them know you aren't getting ready to leave them just because you have boundaries. While I truly believe apologies should be said ONCE and the timing should be considered for the apology, it doesn't mean I don't think recognizing your own part in the break isn't important...and sometimes recognizing your mistakes takes time.
If you need a week or two to collect yourself before reacting, TAKE THAT WEEK AWAY. Do it. You're no good to yourself if you're in a constant panic and upsetting your intended. I've needed some time to reflect on my own bad choices because I was SO HURT by someone pushing me away and I wanted them to realize my pain (so, my attempt at reconciliation would have been worse than horrible.) When I took the time to think why they might have pushed me away to begin with, I realized how I'd often been the author of that outcome. That doesn't mean that when someone did come back, that he wasn't going to be apologizing for his part, too, or at least recognizing he hurt me - if he didn't, it would never work out. It's really rare for someone top be 100% right all of the time.
So, once you can admit you're not the only one hurting (and they seem to be realizing that too,) there's a real chance at a lasting reconciliation. If one side has to be right and never wrong? There's a good chance it will fall apart again.
Since this has been an increasing problem over the years...
I do not give substitutions for items you can't locate (or refuse to try on your own to locate,) nor do I give substitutions for actions you can't take. The substitution for anything you can't find or any action you can't take is to find a spell you have all the ingredients to and can undertake all the actions thereof.
"Quick Advice/Clarification" on an article is something to the effect of: "Can I use a votive rather than a taper candle here?" or "If I use 'Love Me' instead of 'Return to Me' oil, would that be effective on a problem where reconciling the party is unneeded?"
Spell-coaching (a paid service) is anything that would take me literally over five minutes to write a response to. So, if you're asking me to give you special custom advice regarding your situation, or you need a lot of assistance on working a particular spell or finding a particular spell, you need to PURCHASE spell coaching.
Please note the date-stamp on the article you are asking about. Some links may be out-dated. While I don't mind being alerted to an out-dated link, I DO NOT always have a replacement link for that product or store.
Also, if there is any header or notice that I no longer accept questions regarding a particular article (sometimes after a decade of abusive behaviors regarding one article, I have had enough discussion on the matter to last a lifetime,) please do not ask if you can be the exception to that rule. You are already being provided with 2000% more information than I EVER HAD when first using that spell - trust me. Maybe I have more practice in spellcasting than you do (I am almost sure that I do!) but you should be able to work any spell I've posted here with the instructions I have given. Again, quick clarification on an instruction is fine - but if you want me to customize my instructions to your needs, that is a paid service.
It's time for the contest edition of Questions You've Asked me! :)
Grand Prize Winner (PS) Q: You frequently have said that a personal concern could not be reused and I was wondering why this was the case? I've seen on 'certain message boards' of people claiming they have laminated personal concerns so they could reuse them indefinitely, and their 'experts' seem to think this is acceptable. I'm more inclined to agree with your 'one and done' mentality of personal concerns, but was looking for a more in-depth explanation.
A: Sometimes I think of a biological item as something similar to a DNA sample...which is to say, as being similar to other forms of forensically or physically identifying someone. So, for example, if we were using this hair or this nail clipping to identify a missing or dead person, or a criminal, we could use certain tests on the item - given it's condition is acceptable for such testing - to identify someone using tests on the item to give us the DNA information. In this respect, if certain events happen to the biological sample, the DNA can no longer be used because the item is degraded, and we can no longer find that information. This can happen intentionally (I've heard bleach can remove DNA results or skew them,) or naturally (I've watched programs where an old sample on a cold case had degraded past the point of being usable just from being stored too long or stored improperly.) HOWEVER, I think we can all conclude, through modern science, that a DNA sample (a good one,) is a strong identifying marker for whomever it belongs to. So, in that respect, a fresh drop of blood is a stronger link to a person than a photograph is - one is more unarguably belonging to- and coming from- the desired person. In fact, better witness samples ARE fresher, they ARE a hair with the follicle still attached (rather than a piece of hair,) - so they are very similar to collecting the "best DNA sample" if we were forensic investigators. ;)
Keep this in mind, because I'm going to bring up another point before totally answering. ;)
Also, when we use a biological item in Hoodoo, - assuming it's not being placed in a dolly, or inside of a candle, or similar, which would mean it might get destroyed or we would have to destroy the ritual item, - we often place this within a name paper. To unfold the name paper and remove the item (which should properly be folded INTO the name paper,) for reuse is actually destroying the link to the target. The item is supposed to be left in the name paper or in the ritual item as a link to the target.
However, let's assume, for argument's sake, that the item in question, being laminated, is not being folded into a name paper, and is not being pulled out of a ritual item. ;) Also, as above, let's treat the biological item as if it's like DNA evidence - that it can be "contaminated" or degraded past being usable...
Basically, when we work on an item, each time we are "transforming" the sample. As I'd said above, if I use bleach on, say, blood evidence, I can strip the DNA information out. Similarly, while I'm not only removing the link to my target by retrieving the witness sample each time, I'm also working with a "dirty sample," especially if I am not reusing it for EXACTLY THE SAME WORK. I've "contaminated" the sample, in other words.
Let's say I want to work on a man I'm enamored of. I get a hair off of his head, and I laminate this. First I cast a spell to make him lusty. Well, he gets lusty as all hell, but he's not lovey enough. So I reuse it and make him romantic, and that works for a few weeks but he breaks things off with me. So I then use it for obsession work. Now, each time I work on him, I'm putting my energy into his witness sample. Assuming I am not harming my own work by removal of the sample (which I am,) I'm also working on myself a bit more each time. So, both of us get obsessed on this third round, we reunite, but he's not a nice man and he sleeps with my sister, and I break things off. I then use the hair for cursing....well, erm....How much of me is in there? I'm degrading the sample with each use, and putting my own energy in, and I'm probably effecting myself as well. Anyone who's at a point where they feel it's normal to laminate a hair of a target probably got this way because they are (inadvertently) working on themselves - they are making themselves fall further in love with the target, or placing themselves under obsession to the target. Further, that plastic is picking up energies from EACH AND EVERY SPELL, so presumably, even if the practitioner/petitioner is not using a witness sample of their own (ie their own hair, blood, etc.) - which if they do add that in, they are SPELLCASTING ON THEMSELVES and intensifying their own feelings for the target, - then they are possibly working on themselves and definitely affecting their past work by reusing a "contaminated" or "used" sample.
Just like your ritual surfaces need to be cleaned regularly (because they pick up energies, just like your stove top and your pots and pans need to be wiped down from getting bits of food on them,) to ensure you're not mixing the energies up, so would this item need frequent cleaning, AND each time you're using it, you're altering it energetically, so at some point, it's not only unusable (again, assuming you're not destroying a spell for pulling it out each time,) it's also filthy with spell energy or, perhaps, inert from being overly cleansed.
While it's not always the best link to a target, this is why I really really love electronic photos. We can print them out as we need to, and it does NOT matter if we dispose of the item when it's used once! ;) Heck, I print out a contact sheet of images for each client's problem because I can just tear a new sample off of the page as needed. ;)
Further, if someone is at a point where they want to "preserve" the biological link, a better method might be to snip just a teeny tiny bit of it away and use it in each spell, disposing of it in the proper manner with the rest of the ritual remains. There only needs to be a tiny bit of the item - not the whole hair/nail/etc (unless specified.)
Personally, I find reusing an witness sample to be similar to wiping your bum with a hand-towel, then right after, using the same towel to wipe your face. You wouldn't do something icky like that...so why are you reusing degrading DNA witness samples, because it's about as healthy for your spellwork as washing your face with a towel you washed your poopy butt with. ;)
Also the short answer here (because every deserves a short answer, ha!) is I was taught never to reuse a witness sample ever. ;) I have NEVER heard an "expert" recommend it's reuse, and I invite whichever "expert" is saying this is kosher to let me know why they feel it is so. I'd love to have an intelligently-based conversation on how 1.) plastic laminate is not being infected with spell energies as it's reworked (as well as the laminated item,) 2.) how pulling the item out of a spell is not effecting the spell or the witness sample, and 3.) why they feel this is an acceptable method to work (by which I mean how they came to these conclusions;) as I've honestly never ever ever read or heard someone say that they should reuse a personal item - not ever in 25+ years of spellcasting. If it's an item inside of a doll or a bag, then it makes sense, but you're not pulling the item out of the doll or the bag - you're reworking the same energies on a ritual creation in that case.
Second Prize Winner (JB) Q: When working a target for Love purposes is it better or necessary to ritually cleanse both the target and the receiving party before you do the work so that the work will take effect? Some people are protected that is why I ask.
A: It can't hurt to do that, though I would balk at calling it necessary.
I would say the best thing ever in that situation is to KNOW YOUR TARGET. ;) There are a lot less protected people in this world than we'd choose to believe, and it's also been my observation that many people often over-estimate their target's ability to withstand magical influence. (Admittedly, some people under-estimate their target, too - it's just weirdly a smaller percentile.) ;)
For example, many people will ask me "Cat, will (target) know I am working on him/her?" Considering a large majority of people don't even realize there is a study of the occult in modern times (they tend to believe it's something like there are a few kids who really like Harry Potter movies or satanic heavy metal, etc,) much less that there are those who practice spellcraft, it's very unlikely they would even consider that as a cause.
So, steering this back to your question, let's assume that the would-be target DOES know spells or has some form of spiritual belief that would armor them against magical influence - that they ARE NOT the average person who would not have this sort of defense. So, in this case you have to look at this like you have to get past some sort of spiritual armor. Cleansing them isn't going to remove the armor - you have to get in...so...
If they know spells, you might want to use confusion techniques before applying love magic. By using confusion, you are making them "not notice," what's going on. I sometimes will use poppy seed as an ingredient in love spells if I feel the target is difficult to influence or if I feel they are of a type which is sensitive to spell energy. Poppy seed tends to make the target easier to influence and more compliant.
If they have been spellcasted upon by someone else, you might want to remove the work on them. This can be done with a spiritual cleansing.
If you're trying to combat actual armor against spell influence, that could be more difficult. It really depends on what you're up against. The idea is to get "under the armor" and influence them anyhow, but depending on their defenses, that could sound easier than it is. A strong cleansing, AND confusion techniques might work, but if they are protected enough (which is to say, probably smarter and better than most at spells,) you might just keep hitting a wall, or even worse, have them recognize what you're doing. While some people might be flattered if it's a love case, others will view it as an attack and attack back.
HOWEVER, if you're just working on the "average bear" sort of target for love, I recommend doing some road opening work before beginning. It will clear off any obstacles to spell manifestation without negatively impacting your work or the target. MOST people will have no idea you're using love spells on them, and this should clear away anything acting as an obstacle without having to do a thorough cleansing.
Third Prize Winner (AG) Q: You often point out the importance of charging candles, or at least visualizing your goals while holding your ritual candle, which I whole-heartly agree with. Though I've read elsewhere where individuals felt 'charging' is a Wiccan concept that has no place in hoodoo, they claim that it is prayer that infuses the candle. Honestly, it sounds like the same thing that is simply being labeled differently: focusing energy into a candle vs focused prayer into it. My question is if there are any other concepts, rituals, practices, etc from other magical traditions/beliefs that you incorporate into your hoodoo that you feel give you better results?
I guess the short answer is that prayer and focus of will and charging are pretty similar, yes. However, the answer is much longer and more involved. ;)
While the terminology I use might be more "modern" than "ancient," it doesn't make it "Wiccan." ;) I am a bit of a traditionalist myself, but occult practices do evolve over time, and to deny that is to deny that it is a living field of study. This isn't us studying Latin or an extinct species - this is a living corpus of knowledge, - so it can, will, and does evolve over the centuries.
Allow me to digress...one thing taught to me via Catholicism was an instruction on prayer, which basically was that without one being properly focused when in prayer, that prayer had no meaning. The idea that certain prayers, having been said with great faith and devotion over the centuries, carried more strength than others definitely was said to us, but that if we spoke to God or to the saints that without it being sincere, focused, and done with a certain mindset could mean our prayers would not be heard. So, saying an Our Father might grant some blessing as it carries so much energy, but just saying "Hey, St Joe, I could like, really use your help right now because I totes want to get out of wood shop class," is probably not going to effect a situation either way. I'm not sincere, I'm not focused - I am not apt to get help.
Last I checked, while the Catholic church DOES believe in demons and in exorcism, they'd probably balk at their priests being called magicians (despite holy mass being a huge magic spell,) yet here they are telling their adherents how to PROPERLY FOCUS THEIR WILL like one would when spellcasting. If my brain is all over the place and I'm not focused while doing a spell candle, I'm not going to be successful. If I am focused while doing a spell candle, if my intentions are pure (in the sense that they are not contaminated with other thought, with doubt, or with fear,) then I am probably going to be successful. If I pray (just speak) words without pure intention (that is without a clear mind, thinking of other things,) my prayer will not be apt to be successful because I am merely speaking words with no power behind them, but if I pray with pure intention, I am more apt to receive that which I am seeking...so that sounds really similar there, right? Magic/prayer...very similar indeed.
If I were to "pray properly," I would keep the image of what I wanted in mind, perhaps even "seeing it" in my mind's eye as moving towards God/the Universe towards materialization, while I'd be speaking as sincerely as possible to God, the spirit, the saint, etc, and so in many ways this is very much the same as "sending energy."
So, when I instruct others to "charge" the candle, rather than just "focus and pray while focusing" (which I also instruct people to focus while doing their chant,) I am actually doing this for the reason that I believe many neophytes are too nervous or unfamiliar with spellcasting and this focused energy helps give their spell more "ooomph." For a practiced spellcaster, it certainly doesn't hurt to imbue an item with focused energy, either. What is happening when this energy is focused and "sent into" an item (which, honestly, I equate this more with reiki than with Wicca, but maybe that's just me,) prior to the working is that you are filling the item with intention, and this energy is working on your behalf. So both the chant/prayer and the item itself are sending out spell energy.
Considering Hoodoo also has had healers who do a "laying on of hands," which would be a spiritual power working through them, what in the heck to these folks claiming "sending energy is Wiccan," think those Bible-using folks were sending through their hands other than SPIRITUAL ENERGY? I mean, I'm sure they felt it was the energy of God working through them and going into the sick person, but I really doubt that people doing this work well-before Wicca was even a blink in Gerald Gardner's eye less than 100 years ago believed they were practicing a religion that didn't even exist yet. ;)
Furthermore, if we refer back to our ancient forbears, people who even predate modern Hoodoo, we need to consider that these people were often initiated into their job as a magician or a priest, and that certain things which I might speak to another magician in regards to instruction on a particular working are not the same thing I'd say to a stranger who I do not know their level of learning. For example, speaking to another practiced, advanced expert on lighting a seven day candle for love on a particular case I might say: "Use 3 different love oils, but only one with lust as a trigger, because it can't be that 'horny.' I'd lean towards forgiveness and emotional love on the herbs. Don't put both the petitioner and the target in there, just use the target, but make the name paper out the usual way." I don't need to list what I mean in regards to oils. I don't need to list herbs. I don't need to explain a name paper "the usual way" for love. I also don't need to tell them what I mean by any of it. If I was speaking to a neophyte, the above will not cut it at all in regards to instruction. ;) BUT there are plenty of grimoiric texts (the Greek Magical Papyrii for example,) in which language is abbreviated, and even certain parts of the ritual written as "the usual" because a contemporary using that text would have known without having to be instructed what to do. To say these people never used focus and will and only used "prayer" without focused will is without merit.
Sorry if that was a bit all over the place. ;) Basically any focusing of the will and visualization is a form of sending energy. I'm really almost 100% certain that people have been doing this for over a millennium before Wicca was even a thing. That the most effective use of prayer is similar is not a coincidence, so you're right to say that they are about the same thing.
I will also be posting some "Honorable mentions" in the next day or so. :)
Things that didn't qualify... As usual, I do not teach you how to raise spirits, I do not teach death curses or break up curses, and if it was answered in the QYAM category (especially more than once,) I may have replied to you personally in a few cases, but it did not qualify.
Thanks everyone for participating! I really appreciate everyone's entries, and hopefully we can do this again next year! :D
While writing your money spell (writing takes me a looooong time, and right now is no exception, heh) I received an email that was very very very nice, and thanked me for all of the hard work I've put in on my blog, and how a recent article helped them with an issue they'd been having, and better helped them overcome some spell issues they'd run into.
You know, that was really, really what I needed today.
It might surprise some of you, but I get crap from some of my peers for writing "for a n00b audience," now and again. It might surprise some of you, but I get crap for being honest enough to say things like "You probably don't want to wait to the 11th hour to turn to spells if you want your problem fixed" (solid advice for anything - don't wait to do something until it's so bad it's horrid.) I get crap for not doing my job for free (I also get crap when I do it for free.) I get crap for not writing articles fast enough. I get crap for being insincere when I'm being sincere. I get crap for not being funny enough. I get crap for attempting to interject humor into articles. I get crap for not sucking up to everyone regardless of their treatment of me.
I get a lot of crap sometimes...because sometimes life is fulla crap. :P
It's amazing how one person being a shit can ruin my whole day, but it's even more amazing how one genuinely nice bit of praise can completely reverse that and remind me why I do this job.
So thank you for the praise. I sent an even longer note of thanks to you personally, but thank you. I am happy that I've helped you, and it's why I write my blog. You were totally the candle in the darkness today, a blessing, and exactly who I needed to run into. Bless you. :)
Today I wanted to discuss doing work for prosperity, and some of the more common misconceptions I find people have about doing this type of work. Since I also need to get aboard the prosperity-spell train (I've been slacking in my own prosperity spellwork department, *sigh*) I can definitely say that right now I empathize with more than one person trying to do this work. ;)
So, let's discuss a few of the more basic problems/issues/misconceptions I have observed when working with people new-er to magic.
Doing a one-candle money spell once (and only once,) is unlikely (and almost guaranteed not to,) bring you an outrageously huge unending stream of income.
One of the more common misconceptions I see among those new to magic is that if you get a seven day candle dressed and blessed just right, or petition the "right being" (Mithras, Mercury, Jupiter, Cashlord*,) just that once, you're going to find a windfall amount of money headed your way.
In reality, you should see an uptick in finances (be that through more work, found money, a raise, etc,) but in all likelihood, it's not going to be outrageous, nor will it last forever. When I was doing a regular seven day candle on money about 2x a month, I was definitely making more money than I have without doing this service for myself, but I was also working a lot more. More work = more money. This is a pretty common finding. You might get opportunities to make money (which you should take so you can make money,) but it is often that the money is still being earned rather than found. This might mean more customers at your job. This could mean being offered time and a half to do over-time. I guess what I'm trying to impart is that it often does manifest as that you have more work to do (to earn that money.)
If you're seeking gambling luck, this can pay off, too, but keep in mind, if you invest $1 on a scratch ticket and win $50, you just made a 50x return on your investment. That might be all you make. :P It wouldn't be the first time I've seen that, and honestly, $50 isn't going to get you far in life these days. I have always strongly advocated towards seeking money through job prosperity and not through gambling. Rare is it (I've never actually heard of it happening) that someone wins powerball because they did a spell. :P
So you SHOULD see a positive rise in your finances, yes, but as far as it being a windfall amount? Meh. It could be a permanent change, like a raise, but "windfall amount" stories are often fictitious, and definitely so if you're just using a seven day candle once.
For the best outcome, you should be working on your money situation continuously, especially if using smaller and more mild work, like seven day candles.
Furthermore, if you're petitioning any saint, spirit, or deity for an income, that candle is an offering. You should be making frequent offerings if you really want that spirit/being/deity to smile upon you. Think of it like this... If you give me a cookie once, and only once ever, how likely is it that I will always come over and help you with every single problem you have? Not likely. Once the cookie is gone, and you keep asking me to do shit - without any further thanks or compensation, - I'm probably going to stop helping because I'm receiving no reward or recognition. Same idea. If you only give one offering once, or one episode of praise once, don't expect any being to help you past the once. :P
Prosperity work is best done before emergency situations crop up.
All too often, people complain that they are having a financial emergency, and they need money NOW NOW NOW. Well, sure, I've been there - I think most of us have, - and I can understand why you would think this way...but it doesn't escape the reality that the best time to do prosperity work is NOT when you're desperate for money.
Those of you familiar with my many long speeches on "thinking spells to death" (a.k.a. lust for results,) are probably more familiar with the idea of "If I'm obsessed with my love target, then my spell with either falter or take forever to manifest." Well, yes, of course that can be very true. However, I've said a thousand zillion times (not on the blog, but in life,) that I have a big ol' problem with thinking my money spells to death. Why? Because I need to keep doing prosperity work before emergency situations crop up, lol. ;) Instead of always remembering to do that, I have been known to start pitching money and prosperity spells out the moment I find myself about 2 weeks from starving or getting my lights shut off (well, not really...the electric company has yet to shut off my lights for missing one bill.) The end result is that I do, alas, often begin to panic as the due date for the bill nears. While I've some really nice friends who have gotten me out of a bind before (because I do tend to pay them back very quickly...like when I stop thinking my money spell to death because the bill has been paid and it manifests because I'm not panicking anymore,) I have definitely thought my money spells unto death...because I'm worrying the situation to death.
This is easily avoided. I could just be doing constant money/prosperity work rather than waiting until the last moment when the situation is dire and I'm all wound up about money... So, see, I'm a human like you, and sometimes wait to do things til the last moment (thus leading to panic and lust for results)...which I do not recommend that you or I wait until a financial emergency to start spellcasting for prosperity...so, I'm a bad role model in this way, lol. (I was not raised well in regards to money, never finding it to be an important thing, which is an unfortunate teaching which has dogged me my whole life, though it has made me a less avaricious person than most.)
However, even past the "emergency situations probably cause lust for results" issue, and the "it needs time to manifest" issue (really, you want to give yourself 2-4 weeks at least for manifestation of prosperity spells, generally speaking,) by avoiding ONLY using prosperity work during an emergency, and doing it frequently we ensure a constant money stream.
Look...having a LITTLE BIT OF MONEY, or even a BIG BIT OF MONEY isn't a CONSTANT STREAM OF MONEY. If I have $500 in my pocket, it doesn't take long to spend that. If I have $2000, it might take me a little longer, but, still, I can spend it. ;) My point isn't that I could have some amazing new shoes (only $900!) if I had $2k, it's that without a constant stream of prosperity flowing back into my life, I'm going to spend almost any amount I make within a certain period of time. Plenty of bills and charges are recurring. Food, shelter, heat, water - all of this costs money. If you constantly work for prosperity to come into your life, then you can pay these bills with ease. If you just wait until you're underwater financially, the life raft that sails over to you might not come in time, and might be overwhelmed by the weight of your own debt when it does.
Keep your "sphere of availability" in mind.
Ask yourself before you begin: "Where is this money (realistically,) apt to come from?"
Ask yourself before you begin: "Do you have the ability to take on new projects? Would I be willing to change jobs?"
I've discussed "monkey paw" outcomes before, but allow me to be very frank with you for a moment. Sometimes people ask for money, and their house burns down and it's the insurance money that they get. Sometimes someone could die and leave them money (and it's someone that they love very much.) Sometimes they could get permanently disabled in an accident and it's the settlement money.
I'm a big believer in NOT limiting your roads to manifestation too much, but there is nothing wrong with stipulating "This money must come without damage to people or property," or something similar. Now, what are your options for getting that money then? If you're limited enough (and the Universe is infinitely smarter than you, so I'm sure you're not seeing a few routes,) that might make it near to impossible to get large amounts. If you need $35k by tomorrow, and that's a years' salary to most of the people that you know, I suggest you start smaller. :P See, spells will take the path of least resistance to manifest, but if you're asking for something way way way outside of your sphere of availability, if you're also limiting paths of manifestation in regards to that outcome as well, you might be limiting your spells ABILITY to manifest. If I did a spell TODAY for $50k in 2 weeks, short of someone dying and leaving me that (in which case, it would be in escrow for months, as is,) I'm not apt to get it. I've a few friends who make a lot of money, but they are either not that giving (sorry, friends) or they aren't apt to just hand me a large amount unless they are dead because that's still a large amount. I'm not like to get that in 2 weeks. If I do, death and destruction ARE the only methods of manifestation that I can think of.
If you're jobless, you're better doing work to bring yourself a job and enough to pay the rent than you are attempting to go for large amounts. Remember what I said above, - this type of work is best done on a regular basis, not an emergency basis. As you continue to use prosperity work, your income will grow. As your income grows, you slowly make more and more until you reach a large amount.
STOP assuming it's a lottery win or gambling that will get you a large windfall.
I have no time for people who seek this sort of income, there is plenty of info on the internet why this is a failing proposition, and I won't entertain conversation about it on my blog (because I have before.) :)
So, for many years, I've not used my yahoo email for pretty much anything. It was, at the inception of my blog 10+ years ago, my main email. That was long ago. :/
I had an old donate link there, and everyone who donated (excluding one person today,) should have had most things they sent via that route in the last 2 years returned to them...maybe it's a year, maybe it's 3. I removed that email from my PayPal years ago.
If you just wanna send me a donation, please use one of my listed emails. I'm always glad to take tips. ;) All emails you can find for contacting me ARE active PayPal emails. If they end in Yahoo.com, they are not active emails.
And if you see that donate link to the left again, let me know. I've been trying to remove it to prevent this from happening. :/
Today, being relatively uninspired (well, I should say being stuck in a house with 2 people who emulate Mary Typhoid when sick - like coughing on their hand and putting it into a bag of chips and drinking right out of the container of whatever, - which isn't me being uninspired by this as much as frozen in abject horror at the likelihood of catching their horrid gastroenteritis,) I'm just going to post a little Q&A. :)
I know you all love Questions You've Asked Me, so let's get to it! :)
Q: If I used the wrong name on a name paper, will my spell not work? For example, if the first name and surname are correct, but the middle name is not, will this render my spell moot.
A: It could. I don't recommend guessing anything, and I recommend using only information you KNOW about your target.
For example, if I want to do a spell on a John R. Smith, and I decide his middle name is "Rambo," only to find out it's something much more common like "Robert" or "Richard," then this is a little like someone taking your social security number, changing a number, and assuming that's still going to be you. :P So, if you're suddenly getting mean letters from the IRS because your Social Security number is the one AFTER the one being used and they say "What the hell, close enough, pay so-and-so's taxes," would you agree to that? Here's another scenario. Let's say you are John Rambo Smith, and you have to go to court the same day as John Robert Smith - John Robert being a mass murderer. So, you, John Rambo, are there on a minor traffic infraction. Seeing as you're both John R. Smith, would you like to get the death penalty for a traffic infraction just because someone confused you two and said "Close enough, you're both John R. Smith, after all."
Am I being ridiculous? ;)
We are named what we are named because that is a method of identifying us. Just like we have fingerprints, and government issued identification numbers, and DNA, and different facial traits, and different histories and etc. All of this little stuff identifies us. I do have friends who have the same name as many other people. This doesn't make them any less unique of a person, but, should I use them in a spell, I will want to be sure I'm identifying who I'm working with. It is better to PROPERLY name a person than it is to improperly name them. Use what you know. If that's only an initial in some cases, so be it. If you use the wrong name, then you're not working on the right person.
The one exception I might take here is using the wrong surname in a situation suchas working with a woman who has changed her maiden name to a married surname of a man she is or is no-longer married to (in some cases using that name instead of her maiden name.) While I personally believe it is BETTER to have someone's original baptismal name (or birth name, because not everyone is baptized,) when working on them, I believe names they have legally changed still work.
Q: What is a magic wand used for?
A: Most people (if not all) in Hoodoo do not use a wand. However, in some traditions, a wand is used a bit like a pointer stick. It can be used to "trace lines" (so basically to send energy from body, into the wand, to direct it into the making of a magic circle. I have known people to use this implement to literally draw a magic circle out in the dirt.
It is basically an item which energy is sent through, and it is used to direct said energy.
My personal view of it is a cross between a pointer-stick and a maestro's baton, but as an energy-directing device also.
If you want to Harry Potter it up, if someone is pointing the wand at another person and speaking a chant (assuming actual energy is being sent via will and energy transfer,) they are, technically doing the equivalent of pointing a laser at someone that actually does something - like if I pointed a laser at you and said "ashes" and it bipped out a laser that instantly incinerated you. However, if we go all Disney here, just waving it about and singing a song is not apt to turn pumpkins into coaches or get you all snazzed out in a 1950's looking ball gown. :P
As far as tools go, it's certainly something which has it's uses in certain paradigms, but it is like a conduit or a wire more than it is like a gun. The wand itself is a device to send the energy, but the energy comes from the mage, not the wand. While a well made wand might send that energy better (that's a huge argument for another day,) being a novice with a nice wand probably won't improve your magical ability from 0 to 100. Perhaps thinking of it a bit like a muzzle of a gun with the mage himself or herself being the rest of the gun might be a nice comparison. If the gun itself doesn't work right, having a nice barrel won't do too much.
Q: You've said "Some things aren't yours to have" in a few previous posts. Can you expand on this?
A: Yes. I think most of us get that if I'm holding a goose, I can't wish it into being a duck. A goose is a goose, and if I want a duck, I'll need to go get a duck. Just praying really hard that my goose turns into a duck *poof* will not make it a duck, and dressing it as a duck won't make it a duck. We all get this, yeah?
So, sometimes when people come to me, they say "Cat, I love Marvin Sugartitties so much - except he's dishonest, and uncommunicative, and he cheats, and he isn't funny, and I don't like how he laughs, and I think his mama is a bitch, and I think his dog is smelly, and I also hate his political views, but I love Marvin. Can you make Marvin sweet and honest, and communicative, and loyal, and funny, and laugh right, and make his mama be nice, and make his dog die or not smell, and change his political views?" Well, you should go back up to the previous paragraph where I talk about how a goose can't be a duck. Marvin's a goose, and you want a duck. I can't make Marvin someone he isn't, in other words. In fact, sounds like our theoretical example guy here isn't who the person wants to begin with. I get that "Marvin" is handsome or has attributes that someone likes, but if so many things do not make you happy, you don't want Marvin...you probably just want his body. So making Marvin something he isn't is not possible. In fact, if you work some love mojo on Marvin, he's just going to still be Marvin, except he loves you lots now. Love spells make someone LOVE you* - so it doesn't make someone an asshole, it makes an asshole feel love for you.
So making someone into something they aren't? That's an example of it's not going to happen. You want x but it's not going to happen...
I think most of you get that.
Now, I'm really bad at singing. I could take classes for years, but I'll never have a melodious voice. Ever. If I do work to try to become a singer, it's not going to change that I don't have a nice voice. Physically, I was not graced with a singer's voice. Even if I learn to hold a tune (also tone-deaf,) I will never sound like an angel. So, having an angelic voice? Not going to happen. I might become like Janis Joplin type of singer, but no one's going to think I'm say... Karen Carpenter in regards to having a lovely voice - no spell will change that. It's just how God made me.
I think most of you get that. Some limitations we are born with, and we will likely have regardless of how many spells we do. I'm short. Not growing anymore. I wear heels. I'm too old to grow taller, so that's as tall as I get. No spell will change that. I'm past the age of growth (positive growth, anyhow, lol, I could get fatter,) so no spell will make me taller.
So....we all get this right? But what's "Not yours to have," mean then? Is it the above? In some ways, sure. You're asking to change what is not yours to change, but that's not entirely what I mean by not yours to have. Sometimes, for reasons we can't gather, we don't get what we want. Maybe I'm in love with someone who's very compatible with me, who's not out of my league looks wise, who is a friend, who's a wonderful person, and no amount of spells makes him budge. And why? Because for some reason only the Universe/God/dess/etc knows, it's not mine to have. Maybe he has to marry someone else because something big has to happen. Maybe he needs to move to some part of the world that I am not meant to move to. I do think all things happen for a reason, and while it's a small percentile (very very very small) that we ask for something that SEEMS LIKE it should be easily within our sphere of availability, it's just not ours to have. The Universe sees your request and rejects it. It's a very small probability this will happen, but it does.
Q: I heard you like vodka.
A: You heard right. (Seriously, received an email with nothing other than this statement in it.)
Q: How long do you believe is too long to work on a problem? Is there a time limit where you should just say "Well fuck this, I've worked too long on this issue and there's been nothing to show for it!"?
A: Being of a great deal of Irish and Scottish heritage, it's not in my nature to give up easily or be a quitter. Heck, I'm even related to Robert the Bruce, and I tell myself the story of Robert the Bruce and the Spider when I'm ready to give in. So...for what it's worth, I understand not wanting to give up on something. However, I also believe that being an idiot is basically defined by doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. So if I cast the same love spell over and over, and get no result, I'm not being smart.
For that reason, I suggest changing your tactics. There is not just one love spell, or one trigger that works to induce feelings of love. Try more than one. Same with money spells, legal spells, job spells, curses, controlling spells - all of these use different elements, different triggers...and maybe you need to cleanse the situation and try again, etc, etc. Change your tactics, adjust your plans, and you might find you're gaining more traction in the situation than you were before.
However, if you've thrown everything and the kitchen sink at a problem spellwise, and it's been so long that you can't even remember what it is that you were wanted (what was your need or desire to have thing thing based on) to begin with, it might be time to give up...or maybe even just "put it aside" for awhile. I don't believe that 10 years of dedication on getting something, when you've tried everything and hardly made a dent, is helpful to you. While I can't give you a set frame of time where if you've not gotten something you want, you should just say "Fuck this," and walk off, I do think it's reasonable to frequently assess (say every 2 months,) why you want this, how far you've gotten in getting this, and how important it is to you to have it. Is it taking over your life? (if so, that's bad.) Are you obsessed with having it? Do you really NEED this to be happy. It's okay to give up on something, you know. You can probably return to it at a later time. If it's valuable to you, it will still be valuable to you. Taking a break from trying to get something you want can be HEALTHY and HELPFUL.
Further, assess what obstacles are there. Maybe I wanted x job, only to realize I need a degree that I don't have. I didn't realize this before when I'd started working, and now I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to return to school. There's nothing wrong with saying "Well, x obstacle came up, and I feel that is more than I wish to overcome - it's too much to ask for me to get what I want."
In love matters, if someone's married and had some kids with someone else since you've been together, do you really love them to tear their family asunder just so you can selfishly have them? I don't think so. But then you probably won't listen to that. ;)
I guess, in short, it's not mine to tell you when it's time to give up. If you're asking yourself that, then it probably is time to give up - and it's at least time to reassess if it's something you still want for yourself. There is no time limit, as far as I'm concerned, but if something is never exactly where you want it to be, you've tried everything, and you're getting sick of trying, ask yourself honestly "Is this worth it, or should I give up?" If you're ready to give up, then stop spellcasting to that end.
Sorry if this was a brief one, folks. :) Hope you enjoyed it and it was educational. I will try to get another QYAM out next month.
+Still adding my 2014 posts. Sorry. December was overwhelmingly busy – I was working 14+ hour days at the job, which wasn't leaving much time for writing. :(
*Love spells can't make someone compatible with you, but they can make someone feel more lovey towards you. I do not believe in "love zombies" and if it was never compatible, it will just fall apart eventually, no matter how many love spells you do.
A few friends of mine suggested I write up a campaign to get enough for me to be able to write a book. While it might just be a lark, I do hope everyone can help out. If you CAN, then I can finally publish that book I've been promising for...oh, ten-ish years now. If you can't? Well, check it out, share amongst your buddies, make fun of my picture, etc. ;)
PS- If I get no backers within 3 days of starting the campaign, I solemnly swear to just keep the book unto myself forever and ever (or at least until the executors of my estate publish it. :) Why? Because hells bells, I get $5 and $10 here and there for support on my blog - I can only assume that many people want me to make a stinkin' book too. ;)
This just swam into my inbox. I thought it was a good question, so I'm putting it here. I've paraphrased and changed names to protect the querent. Thank you for letting me use this, person who asked said question. ;)
Q: About 7 years ago, I broke up with a man who I was very much in love with at the time. We fought for a year or so, but then reconciled as friends. I did not want him back at that point. We stayed in touch, talked maybe every 2-3 months, and about 2 years ago, we ended up making love while really drunk at a friend's wedding. It didn't turn into a relationship, and we stayed (very casual) friends. However, around Halloween, I started thinking I might want to get into a relationship again. He's single, I'm single, and I just think we could really make it work this time. If he's interested in the same thing as me, he's great at hiding it. I think he might have some sexual attraction but I do not know. I know he loves me as a friend. Should I use reconciliation? Love? Lust? What are your thoughts?
Q: While you don't specify if there were things he might not forgive you for regarding the previous relationship, I'm going to operate under the assumption that all is forgiven. If it is, then do not worry about reconciliation or return to me work. If you worry there might be some lingering resentment from the past, you might do some simple candle work like a reconciliation seven day vigil light dressed and blessed to that purpose.
I'm going to operate under the suspicion that the problem here is that you're not on his mind romantically. When he saw you at the wedding, he either found you to be an easy mark for sexual activity (sorry to say it, but exes often are,) or perhaps alcohol did arouse some old romantic feelings - however, now you're not going to be on his mind much because you're not in his life.
I recommend using Come to Me products, something to make him more talkative (Dara Anzlowar's Talk to Me formula is very good,) and to go after making him feel romantically loving towards you. Some additional mild lust work DEFINITELY wouldn't hurt here (men often are led by their penises - sorry, guys, lol, but girls often are led by their coochies, too, hehe,) but I suggest using more ROMANTIC love type of workings than sexual as I feel that if you're too strongly sexual, you're more apt to bring about a sexual relationship rather than the romantic relationship you're seeking.
Remember, with any target, don't suddenly become all smothering. Be open to their advances without being too overwhelming. Desperation is the world's worst cologne, and people can smell it all over you if you smother someone the moment they pay attention to you. Be flirtatious if he flirts, but otherwise be friendly, light, easy to approach.
Hope that was educational, kids. :)
+Still adding my 2014 posts. Sorry. December was overwhelmingly busy – I was working 14+ hour days at the job, which wasn't leaving much time for writing. :(