Making Peace for Yourself

Hey Occulties,

This is just a quick blurb today, as several of you have asked me for techniques on how to sort of "brush off" the stressors and doubts keeping you from speedy spell manifestations.

Of course we all get frustrated from time to time, and this isn't anything to be embarrassed by. I totally admit to throwing a huge hissy fit or several of them in this lifetime. ;) Who doesn't do that now and again? But, the truth of the matter is, if I'm getting my nose bent out of shape over something, it might feel better to release that negative or frustrated energy, but complaining and screaming and having a fit OR just allowing it to build up inside of oneself as it becomes a vomitous volcano of pent up frustration and silence? Not usually helpful to your situation, or even to your poor little heart because your heart hates stress (and I mean the actual organ there, not your feelings.)

So, while we all go into hissy fit mode on the off occaision and we all have the "I am secretly chewing off the inside of my mouth so I don't tell you to go eff yourself and what I really think" days, there are methods to avoid this sort of stress.

One technique I've spoken about is writing out your frustrations and doubts, then taking a large black marker or pen and Xing out all of what you've wrote, ripping it up, dumping it in a shoebox and burying it in a graveyard to ritually "kill" your doubts and frustrations. Well, many of you have complained about putting anything in a graveyard, or even having to leave your home to go anywhere to do anything. ;) So, in that respect, here is a little something for my more lackadaisical readers. ;) If the physical method doesn't work for you, try this: Sit quietly for a few moments, and allow yourself to relax and your mind to clear. Envision a bridge before you, and see yourself walking to the center of this bridge. Look down, and see a rushing river beneath the bridge. Now, as each frustration and problem comes up in your mind, see yourself pulling out a paper sack "containing" the problem of the frustration you have, the fear you have, the feelings making you "unreasonable" (I visualize just pulling these out of my belly button, personally, or sometimes taking them off my shoulders like I was wearing a feather boa of issues,) and unceremoniously, toss these into the river, and see them wash away from you. When you feel "issue free," or near to it, walk to the other side of your bridge, and then slowly, allow yourself to wake from this meditation...and you will feel better. Notice I am telling you to put the "emotions" in the bag, and why? Because I can't create a meditation bridge that erases the fact that I have to work extra hard because my partner lost their job and I have to support them. I can, however, calm myself and pull through that situation. I can't "bag" the problem that my beloved has left me, but I can "bag" the problem that the fact that person has left me has made me scared and lonely and panicky... Are you seeing what I'm saying? By tossing your fears and frustrations over the bridge, you are telling your higher self you want to deal with this problem in a helpful way - not just freak out over it and hope someone notices you are acting like a cat with its tail on fire and that they might take pity on you. ;) You are literally trying to "remove" those fears and frustrations, and while the meditiation may need to be used regularly, eventually it will help release you from your panicky and freaked out state.

"Oh, poo, that isn't even spellcraft!" you say, "That's lame-ass psychobabble."

Indeed, friend, it is some psychobabble - it will work, but is psychobabble none the less. ;) BUT, you didn't want to go to the graveyard and do the magical killing of your fears did you?

Fine then...you are here for some spellworking, and I'll give you another "give yourself peace" trick. ;) If you can get ahold of some rice paper, take a pen and write out a statement of each frustration or fear you may have. If you are afraid your spellwork won't effect Steven's stubbornnesss or afraid that Harriet never loved you to begin with, write it out like this "Fear of Steven's Stubbornness," or "Fear of Harriet's love being non-existant." If you are frustrated with the work taking a long time, or perhaps you are frustrated that Louise is hot and cold, write out the frustrations like "Frustration at Louise's behavior," etc. Once you have completed this take your rice paper to your toilet, say "I am released from my fear and my frustrations power over me" dump the paper(s) in the toilet "as this paper dissolves, from their power I am free," flush the toilet, "as is my will, so it be!" Huzzah!

I hope everyone has enjoyed my three little advices on how to make your frustration and fear leave you alone. If you're really stressing or upset, as silly as any of these may sound to you, it is at least worth a try, right? Right.

~Cat

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Comments

[J.]

It is my experience, in general, that when we throw tantrums, hissy fits, or erupt volcanically at someone or something which is a non-issue, it usually has quite little to do with that person or issue or in fact may not have anything at all to do with it/him/her. But, sometimes the pent-up frustrations of our daily lives, of our endeavours slow to come to fruition, or our own inner demons every so often need to come out. Indeed, it is infinitely better to expel them through some means which does not prove destructive to our other relationships or others' perceptions of our mental well-being. When it's through the methods listed by Cat or through some other method, we should all, in my humble opinion, seek out the most appropriate auric toilet and flush away our own proverbial psychological excrement. Wow, there's a visual most of us hadn't considered... While Sigmund Freud has said a lot of things, his basic premise, that we humans are driven by agression and sex has something to it. Ideally, by channelling these energies into something productive, creative or at least non-destructive will prove quite useful to us all.

[Lightstorm]

I've got a question for ya, Cat. The technique of ritually killing one's doubts and fears as described above and elsewhere - how effective do you think this would be for addressing personality traits? That is to say, elements of one's own personality that one would prefer to subdue or weaken; those that one finds a hindrance or a 'negative.'

[Cat]

I think it could be useful in those situations. :) I would have to know what the personality traits were to have a better grip on it, but these techniques I've listed are helpful for getting rid of non-material hindrances of most types, IMHO.