Hello my lovelies,
I'd say I'm sorry for the delay on the promised posts, but frankly, I'm sorry for myself when it comes to the reasoning of the delay. Apparently a giant contageous melodrama cloud has entered the atmosphere and is sickening people (friends, clients, readers,) with a horrible case of the Dramz, aka a bad case of constant melodramatics. ;) I am wishing you all the speediest of recoveries from this condition, as I can't recall the last time I saw such a virulent case of the Dramz. From what I've witnessed, this has entirely compromised the common sense, and self-reliability of all people its infected. Its created a giant vortex of panic and hysteria where people, in their sweaty-feverish moments of suffering from the melodrama-oh-the-melodrama are saying such cherry statements as "I couldn't help myself," or "I was spying on someone, and worked myself into a panic, but its not my fault." Mind you, this horrid happening seems not restricted whatsoever to clients, and I hear things like "I called you at work even though you told me not to bother you at all today since you'd be working til 1am just trying to get half the email stuff you have done, because I wanted to tell you I'm mad at you for telling me I can't call you at work even though I want to."
Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot.
Know what that means?
It means WTF! or for those of you not good with acronyms, What The F*ck.
Still more alarming, apparently in some sort of related (?) incendent, this virulent contageous melodrama cloud has made it so people are not able to understand or properly follow the rules of the 2009 QYAM contest. Like, for example, ONE QUESTION PER ENTRY, or even letting me know info like how you would like to be identified if you win. I can forgo shipping addresses until the winner is contacted, but I'd thought the rules were clear...but it seems some vile power of panic and irresponsibility has gripped a lot of people and impeded this from happening. Well, allow me to add in something new to panic about. Any entries past the moment I publish this very article you are reading which do not properly follow the rules set forth in the "Third Annual Questions You've Asked Me Contest" article are going to be DISQUALIFIED! So, please, carefully read the rules and guidelines. Thank you!
Listen my dear ones, your friend Cat is actually a far more patient lady than you might think. See, like here I am, and I'm offering all sorts of free information, and I have all sorts of literature here that I've tirelessly provided for all that helps explain spell concepts to you, and yet, I am repeating these concepts in email after email and in article after article.
And you know, I don't think its too much to ask of anyone (please correct me if I'm wrong,) to have, say, a LITTLE TEENY BIT of responsiblity for themselves and their own actions (for example, it is utter mutha-trucking bull-pucky that you "could not help yourself" because in not a one of those situations is someone bodily forcing you to do the things you are doing, - at least not in the cases of those bringing that statement into my view,) nor do I think I'm being demanding in the least to request people have some reasonable level of self control, which includes, but is not limited to, holding back on sending me a notice of every issue or fear or problem they have, whether or not said issue, fear, or problem has any bearing on that which I've been employed to do. Its amazing what waiting even a few hours to calm down does when it comes to making problems feel so all-important.
See, its not really TOO DIFFICULT to take a moment and just peek into things like my archives or actually try to take a step back from the situation troubling you and give yourself a moment to think about it ON YOUR OWN? Is it? You know, like, calm down a bit and think something through a bit more logically? Give yourself say, a few hours wait (or 24 hours,) to let that panic and urges-to-engage-melodrama to recede and then to either let me know what's happening (if you still need me,) when you're rational, or to use that 12-24 hours of calming time to realize that maybe, just maybe, the situation is being blown out of proportion by said panic and melodrama (therefore not requiring me to cheerlead you and encourage you to stop scaring yourself or upsetting yourself)?
Its not that I don't CARE that people are upset or feel frustrated or sad or overwhelmed (I do,) but its really really really frustrating, time consuming, and overwhelming FOR ME to be the sole person who gets vented upon without hesitation for every minescule thing by a large amount of people who feel this is enouraged or at least not a problem, as well as to be expected to be the Universal Cheerleader, when really,
So, I understand...its been a cloud of melodrama. Its virulent in nature. It makes us all apathetic, it makes us all whiney, it makes us all needy. I do understand. Seriously, the most-self-sufficient, least-melodramatic people I know seem to be effected by this right now (seriously, like almost exactly for a week, and I can, without sarcasm or exaggeration, point to when this "cloud of virulent melodrama" seemed to hit my clientele, family, friends, and etc.) It will pass. :)
BUT, until then, please consider the following, not just in dealing with me, but with those around you, and even with yourself:
*Avoid involving yourself in tasks which are apt to frustrate and upset you (or even panic you,) especially if they are non-essential to work or day-to-day life: For example, spying on your "intended," seeking gossip out about your spell target or intended, or sitting around thinking about what COULD go wrong, or over-analyzing someone's behavior or actions... OR, say, sitting around blaming yourself for the past, thinking long thoughts about painful situations in the past or present, etc. If you'll notice, most of this stuff is wholly unneccissary and should be avoided as is.
*Avoid dealing with people when you know they are going to upset you, unless the interaction is mandatory, obligated, or job-related: While this also seems probably commonsense to most of us, a surprisng number of people still disregard this. ;) Listen, if you're still sensitive or feeling like you're going to be upset, its quite alright to take a little time to wait until all parties have calmed down.
*Do not gossip about or speak about any person who is not present when you are doing said speaking/gossipping, unless you have said or are willing to say the same directly to the face of person you're speaking/gossiping about: PEOPLE, do you really think you can 100% trust your buddy so and so not to reveal that you've been asking questions, or gossiping about someone? Maybe they won't go to the source, but they may share what you said to another person, and then its a limited time before whatever was said is distorted and then reaches the subject-of-the-gossip's own ears. Save yourself some trouble and upset, and keep your prying and smack-talking to yourself...especially if you are involved in using spellwork.
*Exercise self-control: Last I checked, my readers are all adults and actually are capable of stopping themselves from doing something (you CAN control yourself - especially if you have to control yourself in tasks of not dialing a phone, or not stalking someone, or not having an emotional meltdown in front of someone.)
*Don't think you can change the past: You can't change the past, you can effect the present to make a better future. Worrying about the past accomplishes pretty much nothing but making yourself sick with worry. Put the past behind you and worry about the present and the future. Shoulda, coulda, and woulda are not your friends. ;)
*If you're panicking, remind yourself to breathe deep, and try to CALM DOWN! If you can't calm yourself down and this is a regular event for you to become really freaked out A LOT OF THE TIME, you may wish to look at some techniques, some herbal cures, or even to a psychiatrist to help you with controlling your panic issues. I am not a psychiatrist, and only have taken a little ittle bit of Psych in college. ;)
*If you're prone to making bad spur of the moment decisions, avoid making those types of decisions.
Hope its some help.
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~Cat
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