Hey everyone,
So I'm sorry about dropping off a bit for about a week there. If it's any consolation, last week was like the longest decade of my life - all condensed in about a week! ;) BUT it taught me that I can work even in the worst conditions possible, which I always kind of suspected, but now have proven to myself. So, to broadly answer questions, yes John survived his car accident intact, however our truck did not. :P Also he was not so injured as to hang out here with us all day while I work for the rest of his life, it was mostly whiplash and he got his leg stabbed with something from the dashboard, but the wound was small enough to not require stitches. He also got his hand a bit smooshed but it is working perfectly now. I was not in the vehicle, and was unharmed. And for the person who asked, no, my birds were also not in the vehicle, and are their normal boring selves, and beeping at nothing and chewing anything wooden to bits.
So we're back to normal here at my home, which I know was a concern for a few of you because I had to switch some appointments around last week. The main change is that it is harder for me to get somewhere farther than a mile but not really because Uber exists and I use it....and clearly, I don't travel for my job, so that basically does not affect any of you. ;)
It did come to my attention that several of you also had the LONGEST WEEK EVERRRR last week, so I thought that today might be a good time to discuss some strategies to make ourselves NOT have a week like that again any time soon. ;) But, before I do, keep in mind, just because something bad happens, it does not mean that someone is cursing you or the planets are aligned against you to keep you in a perpetual state of "why is everything such bullshit right now?" What it comes down to is, sometimes unpleasant things just happen, and also most of us are slacking with our "maintenance work," on our lives.
So, to begin, cleansing and blessing are important things to keep doing for yourself, even something as easy as say, a monthly road opener working. Again, NO ONE can prevent misfortune from befalling them here or there (it's just part of life,) but sometimes, the problems befalling us do arise from an accumulation of negative or unhelpful people and energies, and cleansing and blessing yourself on a regular basis does help to prevent this accumulation of negativity from building up and creating more uncomfortable or unhelpful situations in your life than just happenstance would supply. Even a salt-bath, as I've recommended, can offer some help here. There are a myriad of "uncrossing" style baths out there. Remember, to REMOVE a condition (in this case, negative energies,) you would wash DOWN (head to toe,) and if you do not have a tub, you can actually make the tea for the bath in a large bowl, and use a wash cloth, and wash downward. The benefit of washing using a bowl is that you can also throw the wash water off of your property, whereas if you're in your own tub, that might be more difficult (unless you put a large wash tub inside your tub.) ;) Traditionally you would recite Psalm 23 ("The Lord is my shepherd,") while bathing, but if you feel uncomfortable reciting a psalm, you can also say "I remove negativity from my self, and all things which would harm me are removed. I am made pure and free from stain," or similar. I personally believe that bathing to remove negativity is superior to smoking yourself with sage or doing candle work, but I also know how you people are with baths. O_O I swear, getting readers and clients alike to take ritual baths is like trying to pull teeth, and if I tell you to do a floorwash? Fuggetaboutit. (Oh, also, ritually cleansing your home using a floorwash regularly is also recommended. I love chinese wash, as it is very much like a roadopening floor wash, but since you already stopped absorbing that when I suggested you clean yourself and your home, let's move on.)
Like many of my readers, I also enjoy candle spells, so if you really can't be bothered to take a ritual bath, or ritually clean your home, a simple candle spell you might use to bless yourself and your home would be to get a white candle (tea lights are OK, but please do not use something as small as a candle for a birthday cake,) and anoint this UP (base to wick,) with Holy Anointing Oil (virtually any respectable occult shop should carry this, it's recipe is given in the Bible,) using seven upward strokes of the hand and then light this, and say the 23rd psalm, OR if you are uncomfortable using a Bible verse, you could say something like "As this candle burns, so do my blessings grow, and when this candle is burnt out, I am still blessed by it's light. Good things and positive energies surround me. Positive energies from this light transform my world and bring positive changes to my life. As is my will, so be it!"
You can use the above very basic blessing working as often as you'd like. Let's just be honest here - you can't have too many blessings! ;)
If you feel like your home has been full of disagreement and negativity, you might try smoking it with white sage or cedar wood (although this can be very hard on the lungs of children and pets, and even toxic to birds,) to clear out any negative energies. You might also try doing a honey jar on the whole dang household. One way I've done this is to find a little piece of olive branch with leaves still attached (this is, without a doubt, far easier and cheaper if you live in certain areas or have friends and/or family living in those areas where olive trees grow) and I write the name of each member of the household on a leaf, and write "peaceful and loving" on the reverse side of each leaf I've inscribed with a name, and place this into a jar half full of sugar, and half full of honey, with a few drops of peaceful home oil added. You may be able to also purchase olive branches at a florist as they are used decoratively. Once I've filled the jar full with the branch and sugar, honey, and Peaceful Home oil, I light blue candles on top every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday until the household is peaceful again. Even a small birthday candle or tea light can work in this instance, and even white candles are ok to substitute for the blue.
If your romantic relationship seems to be a lot of arguing about nothing and being fussy with each other for no discernible reasons... well, first off, are you legitimately sure there is no reason? Are you? Because rarely is that the case, but I would be mistaken to say it never happens. If for-reals and for-sures, and all that, there is no reason you can think of that you two are fussing and arguing, then by all means, try the following solution (but if you know the reason fully well, and yeah, it exists, please move on to the next paragraph): First I would do a roadopener spell to clear away all obstacles to you having good communication and a functional relationship, then I would do a honey jar, or if you hate honey jars (because you're too cool to just have something like an empty jar and honey at your house,) you could also use Adam and Eve OR Chuparosa oil (some people define the use of Chuparosa differently, here it is to make a more functional relationship between 2 people) and anoint a pink candle UP (base to wick,) using seven strokes of the right hand. Now roll this in basic table sugar (if it's an glass encased candle, using a sharp instrument, gently push 5 holes into the top wax of the candle, add a drop of oil to each hole, and then sprinkle a little sugar, and if it's a tea light, swirl a few drops of oil on top in a clockwise motion, then add a sprinkle of sugar,) and then while envisioning you and your partner happy and together, say "I draw to us happiness, and unity, love, and companionship, that we are strongest together, as is my will, so be it," and allow this to burn out.
Of course, let's just be fair here. I've been in my fair share of relationships in my life, and sometimes it was me being an asshat. Sometimes it was him being an asshat. Sometimes it was other people who generally wanted one or the other of us for themselves being an asshat. Sometimes the asshattery was so widespread that I couldn't pin down the main asshat in the situation. ;) HOWEVER, rare was it where there was no discernible problems causing the fussing and fighting. And to this day, even if my partner is being a complete knob and is the king of asshattery, you can bet that I am probably fueling this even just a little because I'm responding to him. So, if you're having some problems, there are many solutions....maybe you need to improve communication, perhaps you could do some work to soften someone's anger, or to bring reconciliation. One thing I am going to drive home is DO NOT USE "RED" MAGIC WHEN YOU ARE FUSSING AND FIGHTING WITH YOUR TARGET. It will amplify anger in many cases. Now, you could try the work outlined above (and it certainly won't harm the situation,) but realistically, you need to have a quick think about how you might be aggravating the situation (I do get that someone else can be the problem-person, and you are not the problem person, but as I said, sometimes their asshattery is making you not be your best you,) and try to stop engaging in any problematic behaviors should you identify any. Next, try to do some work to improve communication, use some reconciliation, and I shit you not, do a honey jar. When I have been with people who are so freaking immature that they will do anything they know annoys you and pick on you until you finally snap at them (yes, I too have dated such assholes, and spent hours of my life trying to not give in to that bait,) and I was still of a mind to stay with someone that obnoxious (haha, because I'd probably deal with it once or twice,) I would use a honey jar, and soon I wasn't dealing with someone who just wanted to pick a fight so I could look like the bad guy. This obnoxious jerk would soon be nicer, more affectionate, and more loving.
Keep in mind, if someone is constantly full of toxic behavior - if this is not unfamiliar territory for you and your partner, - you can only "fix" a jerk so much. For example, my main problem is that I can be emotionally distant. I'm a workaholic, and it can make me seem cold. So when someone tells me where I could have improved, it's like "Well, Cat, you could have been more affectionate, and perhaps used more tact when you told me I was being clingy." So, if someone was working on me, they would probably want to use love-drawing work AND communication work. This would make me more affectionate, and more communicative when someone feels I'm being distant. However, in keeping with my statement that you can only fix a jerk so much, I would likely revert to seeming somewhat distant and unaffectionate when the spells began to wear off. If someone is very needy for affection and for me to talk to them for hours on end about their feelings (which, when you do that for a job all day like I do, can sometimes be a tall order,) the person working on me would soon realize that it's my nature to be this way, and it's a lot of work to make me any other way. ;) See, even I'm a jerk who can only be fixed so much, ha ha. ;)
Next, let's move on to money issues.... Unexpected expenses are a problem for everyone. No matter how well you plan, an emergency can arise. While it's nice to believe that you're able to save for an emergency, sometimes you just spent the emergency fund on another emergency, and so you're out of cash. :-/ The best thing to do in a cash emergency is offer prayers to St Expedite. Almost without fail, this has really helped me cover emergency/surprise bills, because he really does help quickly. I've had amazing results. Of course, some of you are going to say "Oh, Cat, I would rather put out my eyes than ask a saint for any assistance - that so goes against my beliefs, that I hate you for even suggesting it." :P Well...I've offered this spell a few times, and it's a fast working one, but there is my most basic money spell here, (it's the one with the jar candle and irish moss flakes), and this also is great (and can be done alongside work with St Expedite or by itself,) for bringing money to you in a hurry. This working can apply to bringing in more business, or better pay. However, if you're still spending everything you have on something stupid (for example, if you're buying 4 antique Coca-Cola bottle caps for $5000, instead of paying the rent and the electric company,) please understand part of the problem is you. ;) You need to spend your earnings on your BILLS first.
And no, I don't offer or teach lottery spells. In my experience (and I know a lot of occultists who tried super hard to win powerball,) there are more eerie "Oh, it didn't work but look at this," stories, and so far zero stories of anyone winning a jackpot. :P
I'm not saying the above is a cure-all for all ills. If you find yourself sitting in a big pile of "everything sucks, and I'm broke and my partner hates me," I'd recommend cleansing and blessing above all else. Don't assume that you're cursed (it's incredibly rare that such is the case,) but DO try to cleanse yourself and your home, and then bless yourself as needed. You might be surprised how quickly everything turns around. :)
Best wishes,
~Cat
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