Hey Occulties,
Looking like it's review time, since I'm getting a lot of this stuff in my inbox.
So loosely, lust for results is obsessing about your situation you're working on, the people involved, the spellwork, - basically obsessing about that situation, the people, or the work (and I mean its past, present, or future, or that past, present, or future of the situation,) is lust for results.
I see a few of you trying to come into some excuses how this is "normal," or "healthy," when it is neither. When myself and Mr NinjaCat are having zero problems, I do not sit there wondering what he is thinking about me RIGHT NOW. I do not wonder if he's at work or out with another girl. I am probably more focused on other things, because my romantic relationship is of little concern. If we are arguing or there's some dust up, then I might start focusing on what I SUSPECT he's thinking right now, or I might worry he's not at work or think he's out with another girl. This is me, were a spell cast, lusting on the old results.
Now most of you have read my blog for some time and this is not of any news to you. AND since lust for results is most common in love situations, and then the next most common is revenge situations, then I will use those for my examples.
So, what people also don't realize is fantasizing is also lust for results. Let's say Mr NinjaCat and I are having zero problems. So I think to myself we should take some next big step like move in together, or marriage, or babies - these are all things that people in a healthy relationship probably think of from time to time. So I do some sort of spell to urge him to make this commitment, then I fantasize about some baby-marriage-living together scenario that some lovesick twenty-something would fantasize about probably because they've never been married. Now all of the sudden it seems like Mr NinjaCat is losing interest, or things are the same, just not moving towards this bizarrely wonderful idea of long-term commitment I've imagined (which, not to be an ass, is really a fantasy that doesn't generally hold up,) because I cast a spell.
But I was using positive thinking?! That's a happy thought?
Yeah and it's also lust for results. I'm killing the spellwork. Just because you're not having a cry or attacking yourself emotionally, or being doom and gloom, that doesn't equate with not focusing on the situation you're working on.
Now, I don't suggest you are capable entirely of separating yourself from your own life so much that if you, say, live or work with your target, or are in regular contact with them, that you could just blot out all thought of them. Nor do I think that if you are in a situation where they neither live with you nor are in contact that you would just blot out all thought. I have experienced lust for results myself though, and it's entirely different than "normal, healthy, thought." It's obsessive. It's not "I thought about my ex a few times today, but only for a few minutes." It's "I stalked my ex today, but only for a few minutes." It's not "I think it would be great to get married to my partner" being a passing thought, it's more "I fantasized and looked at wedding gowns when we aren't even engaged." It isn't "My partner is acting strange, I wonder if s/he is cheating" it's "I broke into my partner's phone and deleted all the people that aren't me or his/her family because I just know s/he must be cheating."
So, it's a hugely different thing than a passing thought. AND the amount of people I tell that they are doing it that deny doing this even to themselves and then cop to being hugely obsessive later on is no small number.
What can you do? When you start obsessing, tell yourself you're taking care of the problem, and you don't need to worry on it anymore...I mean, assuming you're spellcasting on it.
That's all for now though I am working on a spell article. It's coming slowly as I have a large amount of unpaying work I have to do for my business. :P
~Cat
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