Hello my Occulties,
For many years, I have told many many readers and clients that without adaptability, they would not achieve the sort of success they would have with it, or sometimes might even find themselves with complete spell failure.
it comes down to this… if your reaction to any obstacle or challenge is to sob and moan and ask others “what can be done?” or to act as if all hope is lost the moment you perceive something isn’t going your way (especially when you are easily made negative by the most trivial of events,) you are your own worst enemy not just in magic, but in life. Of course, every person becomes frustrated from time to time and might reach this point where we act this way, but it is how often you fall into this state, how long you maintain this state, and how much energy you allow yourself to waste in this state. If you are always negative and often need encouragement, you are part of this lot.
Again, I do not deny that all of us get to this point from time to time. I do too. I can be a complete mess if pushed hard enough, just like you. However, I see it like this…. If I cannot open a proverbial door or scale a proverbial wall to get to what I want on the other side, then I must find a solution to make an opening so that I can. Sitting and blubbering about it is a waste of energy. You now have less energy, and a headache, and just as much work to accomplish. Being angry about it only motivates me so much. Resolving to find my solution and being willing to try out theoretical solutions that may fail until I find the one that doesn’t is therefore my only option. Of course frustration and self pity may come upon me but I must not allow myself to accept either as my reward, and therefore must rise to the challenge being presented to me…so long as my goal is a goal I still have.
You see, goals change. There are things I want now I did not want in my youth and things I wanted when I was a younger woman I do not want now. Keeping a goal merely because you did not achieve it when you still desired to reach it is just stupid. You are wasting energy on a thing you no longer find value in. People do this all the time because they want to “win” when there is no competition being played out and all you will win is a thing you neither value nor want. So reassessing your goals frequently is a wise practice.
You must not fear your obstacle or your obstacle is the fear and once you overcome that, then the actual obstacle. So you make yourself two obstacles. Plus many fear events that have already happened, like the amount of people I work with who are afraid of breaking up with a partner who already broke up with them is not small. It already happened so you needn’t fear it anymore. Also we must keep a clear head. The amount of times someone expresses that they don’t want someone they dated for months or even years to forget them - someone who ended the relationship recently, no less, - is also not small. Unless you have a target with sever brain damage and memory loss, this is an unsubstantiated fear borne of melodramatic and unreasonable thinking and you must overcome it.
Now the another issue here is I find people look for the most easy solution and why not? Hell, we all love it when things are easy… though most things of any value are not easily attained. So, if you instantly become discouraged because you invested the least amount of time, energy, or money to obtain a goal and failed, then you have only yourself to blame for thinking laziness and a lack of effort was the best way to be rewarded.
And why am I saying all this? Because I will be posting a love spell in the next day or so, and a bit of advice I’d generally a smart idea before I get the droves of people who very much need this lecture coming into my inbox with many of the problems listed above.
Magic is your way to make things as you would have them, but it isn’t always easily mastered, and until you master your own self, may not provide the solution until you have done so.
~Cat
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