Hey there Occulties,
So, it's come to the time where people are making problems with their beloved (yay, Mercury retrograde,) and then making some pretty non-magical mistakes in reconciling that person or in navigating their situation well. While I'm so much more about the magical fixes (yay, magic!), I am also very aware that if you can't handle it in the mundane world when it comes to relationships, you could easily flub your spellwork up and stop it from manifesting. :(
While I'm a HUGE FAN of this article, allow me to also say...
People (just people in general) tend to exaggerate and lie, and even moreso in emotionally-charged situations. Stop believing everything your ex/beloved said as being 100% truth. I will have people tell me so-and-so always "tells tall tales" (exaggerates when relaying a story to the point of fabrication,) only to then complain about details of this person's story that are scary and upset them. If the person is a known exaggerator or liar, why take anything they say as truth? You need to depend on your OWN OBSERVATIONS to get the real truth, not what that person told you.
Are you upset? Angry/Sad/Hurt? PUT DOWN YOUR SMARTPHONE! DO NOT TEXT OR MESSAGE THAT EMOTIONAL MESS AT SOMEONE. Wait until you're calm, collected, and NOT EMOTIONAL before you contact that person.
Silence is a bit like a "not guilty" plea, - because you can always change your plea if a good deal comes your way (USA court system, sorry, lawyer's kid, and yes, always initially plead not guilty and also say nothing except to identify yourself, lol,) AND you can always say what you need to say but you CANNOT TAKE BACK WHAT YOU HAVE SAID. So, when in doubt? Silence is the answer!
Apologies are for the person APOLOGIZING, not so much for the recipient, - apologize once, don't have a "BUT" in that apology (buts stink!) and then do not apologize again. All it does is remind the person you hurt how you hurt them. It's like reopening the wound! So apologize ONCE if you must, but don't over explain yourself or repeatedly grovel for forgiveness.
Get off of social media. It creates so much mental illness that I could start a clinic just to cure people of social-media histrionics. Seriously. If you're "not in a good place right now," you need to take a break from social media.
Drugs and alcohol may complicate the situation. Try to avoid imbibing intoxicating substances if you're already low on self-control.
Don't act weird. If you think you are acting weird, you are acting super-weird. How do I know? As human beings, it has, historically, been in our best interest to notice little deviations from someone's normal behavior as a matter of survival. If someone started acting strange, it could mean they were going to harm us, or it could mean they were afraid of something...which could be a danger to us. Therefore, everyone has a "radar" and notices weird behavior. So, if you think you can't act "normal,' you might want to excuse yourself from a situation for a little bit until you calmed down.
Don't throw yourself at your target! I've been over this before, kids. Target flirts, you reciprocate at about an equal level of flirting. Target says something that is positive that ends with a "shut down" phrase, grasp the positive, and just so slightly expand to make it more positive. So, if your target says "I love those shoes, are those new?" you do not respond with "I love you and want you back in my life," but rather, something like "Oh, these? I got them a few weeks ago. I noticed your shoes, too! You always did have great taste in fashion!" If target says "Sometimes I still miss what I had, but I don't know if I could ever deal with the mess we went through again." You don't reply "OMIGOD, WHY WILL YOU NOT FORGIVE ME WHEN I LOVE YOU!!!" Instead you might try something like "Yes, I agree with you. Things got really tough at the end, but I have really great memories of you, too. I'm so happy we've had some time apart to work on our issues. It helps me to remember you very fondly and to put that hurt behind me."
See, these are all easy things we can do to improve love/reconciliation situations. They aren't even magical.
Magic is a wonderful thing. It can put the odds ever so much in your favor, but you do need to work with the spellwork. Sometimes this can seem far more difficult than people realize it could be. Inching towards your goal (and many spellwork cases do have a period where someone is inching towards what they need/want,) can feel very frustrating. Don't worry - IT GETS BETTER. Just because there is a week or two where there is just very small progress...well slow progress IS STILL PROGRESS, and guess what? Most of my clients (and some of my readers) actually begin to freak out when manifestation starts hitting strongly. It can be even more overwhelming to have someone do a complete 180 degree flip and suddenly go from thinking you're OK and all to seriously wanting you (or wanting you back.)
Now, I will see if I have time today to write you up a nice spell article, but as a reminder, do not let booze and frustrated love feelings ruin your spellwork this Canada Day/Fourth of July week. I've seen too much carnage in my inbox this week already (OMIGOD PUT THE SMARTPHONES DOWN!!!) and I know it isn't over yet. ;) I want to hear you're reunited with your loved one or that you're with that person you've been crushing on....not that you drank too much and totally texted a picture of your butt to your intended's best friend because your fat drunk fingers hit the wrong contact. That's no good. Let's not do that. ;) Hopefully this article has reminded you to be your best you during this Mercury retrograde/Holiday week.
~Cat
PS- I am not really going anywhere for the holiday, so if you need me, chances are, I'll be here. ;)