Hello my dearies,
When I was a much, much younger lady, the equivalent of social media (and mind you, kiddos, this is like the early 90's,) was more or less passing little paper notes to each other. When I got older than about 16 or so, even this happened rarely, if ever (and it was still the early 1990's, for all you wits in the audience,) that I was passing notes, because people outgrew that "social media," very quickly, not least of all because if someone intercepted the "social media," almost every time a complete shaming would occur, as this note was either passed around or read aloud.
Keep in mind, I grew up in a tiny place and there was very little need to announce that you were dating someone, that you bought a new car, or that you were totally done with so-and-so, because we all knew all of these things virtually the moment that they happened as is, because that's what living in a super rural area is like.
When I got to college, secrets tended to flow along a line of information known as pretty much by clique (it wasn't a big college,) but this had a quick tendency towards exaggeration...so if Mary held hands with Jerry at this or that party, within a week, they were "totally doing each other," and "all over each other," even if all that happened was two people holding hands. Needless to say it wasn't "social media," either, but it was about as close of a thing as anyone was using to social media at the time.
Jokes about me being old aside, my goodness, how I miss it. Why? Because EVERY. FREAKING. DAY. I have to chat on and on about what someone's social media has posted on it, or, if I'm really lucky, about what someone's friend or relative saw on so-and-so's social media, since people get blocked and still send spies.
That's right, when I was young, I dreamed of an amazing world in the 21st century, and instead I find myself in a world where if you get blocked from social media (social media spying being a form of obsessive stalking as is,) you go send in a friend to spy on that person.
Well, child me is very disappointed this how it turned out. Adult me is used to almost 20 fucking years of this shit, but again...I still clearly remember having to answer a phone (A SHARED PHONE - the HORROR!) and not know who was on the other end. You just did it. It could be anyone, but someone had to answer, and gasp sometimes we even used an archaic ANSWERING MACHINE to screen calls. Can you believe that? And yet we had cable TV, electric lighting, and drove cars. I know, it's shocking. The world before social media was very similar to the world we live in now...the one exception? NOT ALMOST EVERYONE WAS A FUCKING STALKER! ;)
Now let me get one thing straight here - by looking at your page or profile, I could tell a lot about you... like your age, your probable profession (if not listed by you directly,) whether or not you're married or single or dating (though I tend to post very little regarding my relationships as do many of my friends...several of us have gotten married without even speaking of it, lol,) what your sense of humor is like, where you live, maybe even some hobbies...which might be useful if I'm an advertiser. If I really stalk, I will see the names of your pets, maybe find some stuff out like the name of your deceased Aunt that you call Auntie B, and remember so fondly (it ends up she's Roberta? Oh, Bobbi, then B, yep.) So, yes, it can be a tool to glean some information.
But it's a lousy tool for 1.) indentifying how your spellwork is manifesting, 2.) finding out if someone is having a lot of relationship problems (most people wouldn't post about it, though some will,) 3.) avoiding lust for results by reassuring yourself about this person's status. There is an added bonus of if you have someone else spying for you, now you're totally a fucking stalker to whoever finds out about that, and that isn't sexy.
You may, however, find out your honey is totally not into the same politics as you, or that he or she really likes posting pictures of their pet/baby.
JUST GET OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA. Stop it. I don't care if you found a tidbit of useful info last week, when for the last several months, you've probably just been getting yourself worked up about NOTHING, which is going to make your spellwork manifest slower. I would rather confront a person on the merit I know something from REAL LIFE rather than get into a hissy fit because he called his cousin beautiful on instagram and I thought it was just some other girl who wasn't related and could be a rival.
Seriously, it's so endemic in my business right now that if I didn't believe it would cut my business in half (because of social media addicts,) I would prohibit it's use while I worked for someone. It's ridiculous that people work themselves into hysterics sometimes over social media, but if you're using love or recon work, here is what you do...log out for 2 weeks. Just give it a rest. Then come back and avoid your target's page for another 10-14 days when you do get back to social media. Your spellwork will thank you for it, and your nerves will too, because social media stalking causes this nervous, obsessive anxiety that is unhelpful to you and to your spellwork.
~Cat